FlirtJerk asked:


There are three categories of men who are popular with women, those who know how to seduce women, those who know how to attract women, and those who know how to both seduce and attract women. The third type of men is the most coveted sort.

The capacity to seduce or attract women is innate in all men. But the amount of success achieved depends on the effort each man is willing to put into the subject, and how much he cultivates his innate abilities.

For example, men who want to seduce women usually hang out at bars, pubs and clubs and they only work on their pick up lines, and the first few dates.

Men who are only aiming to seduce a woman should be careful not to get entangled into any commitment, because women who are looking for a relationship are willing to invest a lot more than the man who just wants to have fun is willing to return.

Coming to the second category of men, those who want to attract women and not seduce them. These men are primarily concerned with the mental and emotional bliss in relationship. Their principle aim remains, to meet all the needs, realize all the wishes of their partners.

Women usually don’t enjoy going to bars or pubs, unless there is some added incentive, like a live band, or a comedian performing. Consequently men who want to attract women, unlike men who want to seduce them, avoid such places and instead frequent those places which women want to go to.

A man who wants to attract women enters into relationships with only those women who offer him emotional stability, a measure of bliss and happiness, an added sense of security and satisfaction.

And thus we come to the third kind of men, those who know both how to seduce and attract women, they are really the most sought after men, and God’s gift to women. Men who can both seduce and attract women are usually unpredictable; they can turn up whenever, wherever. They follow their hearts in such matters and their inquisitiveness. They usually play by ear, and don’t care about other people’s opinions.

However, when such a man opts for a commitment, he usually wants someone who can satisfy a particular desire in him, or provides some kind of a challenge. Though from a larger perspective, these men usually want their partners to be submissive, because they are not the kind who would take nonsense from anybody. The men who can both seduce and attract women are complacent in the knowledge that they can get practically any woman they want. And if they don’t get a woman they also quite capable of remaining single till they do.

As far as getting the woman is concerned, the man who seduces, the man who attracts and the man who does both are all likely to be successful to an extent. However, if you want to actually be able to choose the kind of woman you want and to be able to keep them as well, the knowledge of how to attract a woman as well is going to come in handy for sure. Thus the man who can both seduce women and attract them is the one who gets to call the shots in this enterprise.



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Rodrigo Rehn asked:


When you put a man and a woman together, somehow, there is a strong chemistry and sexual attraction between them, unless they are relatives or siblings. There is the thrill to conquer to other person and make him or her like you.

Attracting women has not been easier. You need the other person to trust you completely and earn her respect. In achieving this, you need to spend time together to know one another, and to treat her well so that she will fall in love with you.

Whether we want to admit it or not, human beings are to a large degree victims of our genetic programming. No matter what a woman says or how civilized, cultured or progressive she tries to be, she has very specific evolutionary characteristics that shes attracted to. This is great news for us because all we have to do is embrace those characteristics and well have women falling all over us.

A major character trait that females of all species are programmed to be attracted to is status. In the animal kingdom females are told by Mother Nature to mate with the dominant males of her species. It is no different for human beings. When female animals go into heat, they search out the strongest males to mate with in order to preserve the race and create strong offspring.

When a woman feels excited and wild over a guy shes feeling the same genetically programmed response that an animal feels when it goes into heat. She cant help these feelings. The female animal in nature goes for the seemingly unattainable, powerful, untamable male. No matter what she says or how much she tries to fight these instincts its simply factual that they exist inside her. All of this information is encoded in her genetic structure.

Women need to feel this wild, uncontrollable attraction. They dont logically choose it they feel it or not. You can buy her flowers for the next ten years and it wont matter unless you make her feel this attraction to you. Women dont care how things work; they care how things make them feel. In all of the romance novels and soap operas women have been devouring since they were kids, the leading males are always untamable, strong men who sweep women off their feet.

This is the quality that many potential males have. Women dont like the fact that the guy is actually a jerk its just that jerks have a tendency to have more of this primal, uncontrollable dominance that the weaker, nice guys dont have. They cant help it guys. They are simply responding to Mother Nature.

Estrogen is a drug that induces feeling. It makes women want and need to feel everything. Testosterone is a hormone of aggression/achievement and dominance. The sooner we realize and accept these facts, the easier time well have understanding the dating world. So what exactly are some of these traits that shes genetically programmed to desire? It is status, strength, power and money.



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Dan Bacon asked:


Many men agree that attracting women who are older (28+) is easier because women at that age tend to allow your personality to shine more so than younger women (18-27).

The argument usually centers around younger women being too ‘flighty’ and less interested in being serious for too long in an interaction.

Those suggestions are partly true.

Generally speaking and compared to older women, younger women don’t have as much experience with sexual courtships and the ins and outs of dating, love and relationships.

To a younger woman, being all giggly and energetic may be her best way of socializing, connecting with you and expressing her happiness with you in a situation.

If you can’t ‘vibe’ with her on that sort of level, then she might see you as ‘weird’ or ‘boring’.

Additionally, a younger woman might thoroughly enjoy watching movies where Hollywood stars demonstrate passionate and interesting sexual courtships, but will be clueless as to how to make it happen for herself in real-life.

This inexperience on the younger woman’s part might leave you thinking that she isn’t interested or doesn’t like you, or that attracting women of that age is too hard. However, it is more likely that you are incorrectly reading her signals, or lack thereof.

Generally speaking, an older woman will have had more experience with dating and be able to give you more obvious and effective signals of interest so attracting women of that age will seem easier.

An older woman might also express her happiness with you in a situation by using more ‘interested’ facial expressions, body language and tonality and involving herself in longer and more meaningful conversations with you.

Now, I’ve been using the words ‘generally speaking’ because, as you may have experienced, some younger women are very mature, sexually and socially.

One of my girlfriends from last year was 21 years old (I’m 29). She understood things about dating and sex that you’d expect from someone much, much older.

When we first met, our conversations and interactions, while flirty and fun, were also deep and mature.

If you aren’t attracting women between the age of 18-27 and then moving it towards the point of having a younger girlfriend, then you may simply be going about it in the wrong way.

Here’s an example…

I was coaching a client in Sydney a couple of weekends back. As we vibed with two younger women in a popular city bar, there was an old, black & white cartoon playing in the background.

The two younger women were very energetic and giggly, so I geared the conversation towards the cartoon, cartoons in general and the funny things that cartoon characters do, for about one or two minutes.

We all had a good laugh. We then we talked about some ‘normal stuff’ relating to the bar we were in, for a minute or two, and then went back to talking about some other ‘fun stuff.’

I lead the women through a conversation that had emotional variance, in a way that they could relate and contribute to. Afterwards, my client commented with amazement on how the two women just naturally took to me.

Here’s the thing though: Regardless of how skilled I am at meeting and attracting women, the interaction would not have gone so well if I had tried to interact with the two younger women by focusing on ‘normal, boring stuff’ and then expecting them to want to stay there and experience that sort of vibe.

They had a different energy level and way of interacting, so I adapted to the situation.

If you want to beging successfully attracting women of all ages, then you are going to need to learn how to be flexible with the various personality types you meet.

A quick disclaimer: I’m not saying that you should not be yourself, or that you should pretend to be interested in talking about cartoons.

Hell, one of my favourite subjects second to dating advice is transhumanism, but talking about the mind-blowing possibilities of science just doesn’t seem to enthrall 99% of women in bar environments!

…especially younger women. So, I adapt in order to be effective…and it works every time.

Note: Once you begin dating, you’ll be surprised at how interested women will be in who you are, what you know, what you like talking about and where you’re going with your life.

However, before you even get to that enjoyable place, you’re going to need to learn how to adapt and explore interactions and conversations based on the unique individuals you meet.

I can’t remember who said this, but I think it’s an awesome take on calibrating to the situation. I think it might have been Samuel L. Jackson on some TV show when they interviewed him.

Anyway, the ‘guy’ said: “The epitome of cool, is being able to walk into a room full of strangers and get along with everyone on their level, while still being yourself.”

Now get out there and start attracting women!



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Kadence Buchanan asked:


It is unbelievable how many men there are who are awe-struck when it comes to approaching and talking to women. But what I find really appalling is the fact that so many of them are laboring under some unfounded illusions about women that prevent them from making any move whatsoever. Let’s examine some of these misconceptions.

Many men believe that, to be attractive, they have to conform to what women say and want. That’s one sure way to intimidate yourself. Women usually say they prefer men who are tall, dark, handsome, intelligent, rich, athletically built. The truth is, women don’t really know what they want until they see it. They only think this is what they want probably because this is what they’ve seen in their favorite movies or on TV. Most women will be charmed off their feet by men who are smart, charming, funny and good conversationalists.

Another wrong belief is that, to attract women, you have to like what they like and are interested in the things they enjoy. Some men actually pretend to like things that women like, hoping they can create some interest. Nothing could be further from the truth. Whether or not men share the same interests with women is secondary in the realm of attraction and romance. In fact, many women are attracted to men who are their virtual opposites in terms of personality and interests. This is important to point out because some men actually go out of their way to pretend to like the things that the woman they are attracted to likes, which is pathetic and unnecessary.

Even men who are fairly capable of attracting women still have trouble when it comes to sex, mainly because of the misguided belief that women will only sleep with them after they have gone through great and elaborate lengths of courting them. The truth is women, being human beings just like men, have the same needs and desires that we do. And that includes sex. They enjoy sex just like we do. A little experience in this area will convince them that this is true. Usually, women hold off from sleeping with men in order to avoid appearing easy or slutty. It is not because they don’t want to.

A final misconception among men is that if they aren’t any good at dealing with women, they aren’t going to get any better. This is not true. Men usually believe this after years of fear rejection. The fact is that they are unsuccessful with women because they have approached women on the basis of misconceptions. Sometimes they have failed because they lack confidence and women can smell this like sharks smelling blood. But once these men learn to overcome their basic misconceptions, they can approach women with confidence and their fortunes will surely improve.



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Ace Bill asked:


If you want to learn how to attract and pick up women online then we’ve got to talk about building confidence.  There are a lot of dating guides out there. Every seduction and attraction program out there talks about how important confidence is, but none of them cover how you can effectively build confidence.

So what’s the deal on this whole confidence thing?

Confidence is not only directly reflective on how many girls you can get, but it also affects every aspect of your life including your job, your friendships, making money, and overall health and well-being.  The rest of this article could change your life. I mean it.  So read carefully.

How to Attract Women Online: Recognition Of What You Want

The first step to building confidence is recognition.

Ask yourself, “What do I really want to achieve?  Do I want to make more money?  Do I want to make more friends?  Do I want to pickup hot girls?” 

It is vitally important that you have a very clear goal in mind. The more specific the goal is, the better.  So instead of telling yourself, “I would like to make more money,” say “I want to eventually start making $8000 a month.”

Do yourself a favor right now and get a pen and piece of paper right now. Go ahead and write down 3 goals.  And for all intents and purposes, write down that you want to learn how to effectively pickup hot women on the internet and maybe in general.

Picture how happy it will make you feel once you accomplish these goals. Keep this piece of paper. The second step is very important and it is arguably one of the most important steps for building your confidence.

How to Attract Women Online: Knowledge

The second step is knowledge.

Okay, that’s so obvious, you’re thinking, but how many of you actually go out of your way to obtain the knowledge you need? 

The acquisition of knowledge should not be underestimated and many people simply do not educate themselves enough.  Are you buying books to help you out with this step?  Are you consistently trying to learn new things?

There is absolutely no doubt that the more you learn about a topic, the more confident you will feel when talking about it.  You will feel more adequately-equipped and subsequently this will be reflective of your ego, your attitude, and your whole psychological frame.

Knowledge is power!  Power means confidence.

How to Attract Women Online: Planning

The third step is planning.

So you know your problem and can easily define it.  You have the knowledge to assess and tackle the problem.  Now all you have to do is make a game plan.  How are you going to carry this out? Let’s relate this all back to how to attract or pick up beautiful women online.

So you want to pickup high quality girls online.  You want to go on as many dates as you want for the rest of your life until you find the girl of your dreams without even having to step foot in a club.

You want to be picking up girls while you’re not even on the computer by having an attractive online dating profile. You want to learn how to talk to girls effectively on the internet.

So you’ve already done the first step. You’ve recognized that you wanted a better life by learning how to pick up beautiful women online.

Now all you need is the knowledge. You’ve already begun this step by reading this article as well as others I’m sure. But there is a lot of wrong information out there in the world-wide-web on this topic.



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Nick Shane asked:


Have you ever banged your head against the wall because women just don’t want to go on a date with you? Have you ever been frustrated because attractive women only see you as a friend? It’s because you don’t know the secret of attracting women.

You see, if you want to be able to meet and talk to women you have to communicate slightly different than you would to your buddies.

Most guys can’t do that. They don’t know that to get women attracted to you, you need to talk to them on a different level. At least 9 out of 10 guys don’t have a clue how to do that so they turn to what the media has been telling them would work.

You know…tell a woman how beautiful she is, take her out to dinner, bring her flowers and tell her you like her to show your affection. But does it really work when you want to meet and date a woman in the 21st century? Not really.

This may sound like a shock to you but women don’t feel emotionally attracted and would want to kiss you if you behave like the shining knight in armor that rescues the princess.

This isn’t Hollywood, this is real life.

I know this sounds a bit weird but the only way to make women respond to you sexually is to flirt with them in a special way. Most guys don’t know that secret, and that’s why they always end up being just another friend or don’t even get anywhere in the first place.

Here’s what usually happens…

You know this beautiful woman that you really like and want to have a date with, but you just don’t know what to say or do to get her. Then, you finally assemble enough courage to walk up to her and ask her “Hi, I saw you a couple times now and just wanted to come over and ask you if you want to have a drink sometime. Or how about dinner tonight?”

She will be flattered, think you are cute and that it was a nice gesture of you to come over but has to say “I would but I have a boyfriend, I’m sorry”.

So here’s my question to you. No it’s not a question, I want you to think about this so you get the bigger picture of what’s going on here: How come you have so many women that give you the SAME boyfriend excuse over and over again?

Isn’t that weird? Could it be that they just want to tell you “Thanks but no thanks” in a nice way?

You bet!

You see, they don’t feel sexually attracted to you because you didn’t push her right buttons that create that gut level feeling for her.

You were just like every other guy out there. What you need is to be DIFFERENT.

Here’s what I want you to do from now on: STOP acting like a clingy, needy nice-guy! Don’t ask women out for drinks, don’t treat them like a princess and never ever be nice to her.

Women are NOT attracted to nice guys, that’s why the bad boy always ends up with the girl and the nice guys finish last. In Hollywood movies, the cute nice guy always gets the girl. But in real life it’s the complete opposite.

If you want to become a master at the art of attracting women, you need to start acting like a man and not a doormat. Don’t be nice, polite and pay them wimpy compliments hoping they will like you. Be a challenge, be cocky and be bad!

So, instead of saying “You know, I just wanted to tell you that you look very beautiful. Can I take you out sometime?” … be bad and say…

“So what else do you apart from picking up cute guys like me? If you promise to be nice I let you buy me a drink evil grin“

Ultimately, being a cheeky bad boy is what gets you the girl. Period!



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