“Mistakes are the portals of discovery.” - James Joyce

Mistakes are common in any negotiation. Learning to identify mistakes and avoiding these mistakes in your future negotiation will dramatically improve the success of your negotiation. If something did not work out as intended in your negotiation, there are still many ways of managing your negotiation to make it a success.

Here are 10 mistakes which you should avoid in your negotiations:

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Announcement! Recently, I have formed a new team together with Vijay and Jun to roll out a new site, “Sages of Negotiation” in the near future. Watch this space! If you know of anyone you believe deserve the title “Sages of Negotiation”, please contact me with more information.

I had the opportunity to hear Raymond Land’s keynote speech at the Temple University. Was really impressed with the vast negotiation experience he had in China and here in the US.

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I received a comment on my previous blog post from a French ADR blogger, Dominique who made some very interesting points which I would like to share.

This is Dominique’s blog. But you have to first learn to read French! Actually I would appreciate if someone can translate it for me. According to Dominique, “roll” is a slang for swindle (in French?). Interesting!

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“How do you know you have failed in a negotiation? When the person sitting opposite you is celebrating.” - Jens Thang

Being successful in negotiations often requires much strategic thinking and planning ahead. Negotiation is a process which requires all parties involved to reach a consensus in situations where there may be potential conflict and disagreement.

The 10 commandments of negotiations here apply to every negotiator, deal maker, mediator, lawyer or simply anyone who’s trying to negotiate something. To be real successful in negotiations, you need to invest and reinvest time to prepare ahead and adopt skills to help you improvise on the spot.

Here are the 10 commandments of negotiations:

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Here are articles, blog posts and books to check out for the weekend!

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The single biggest danger in negotiation is not failure but to be successful without knowing why you are successful. -Jens Thang

In negotiation, you have to persuade. It can improve your negotiation results. Persuasion is something everyone has to do. There is no secret formula on how to persuade more effectively. It depends on which persuasion principles that you apply.

The 6 principles of persuasion by Robert Cialdini is not rocket science at all. This post will provide an overview of the 6 principles of persuasion which you can use immediately in your next negotiation. These 6 principles are there to guide you and not rules to live by.

Look at them as guidelines which can open up more options for you when you negotiate.

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My best buddy, Eric Chen, has compiled a list of negotiation quotes. Thought it might be interesting to some of you readers. You might even find some of the quotes amusing!

Here it is:

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“With great power comes great responsibility”
- adapted from Spiderman II

Power is a way to get from one place to another. It enables you to achieve what you want. You feel powerful when you are able to control the other party. Power is not a bad thing. It’s the abuse of power that makes it bad.

Power gives you the ability to influence other people. There is absolutely nothing wrong with using power. We all have power and have used power in one way or another (though you might not have noticed).

Power is dynamic and neutral. It is based not on logic but on perceptions. When the other party feels that you have power over them, it simply means that they perceive you have the ability to help them or hurt them.

Here are the 8 elements of power:

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“You can stand tall without standing on someone. You can be a victor without having victims.”
- Harriet Woods

The best way to win and win BIG at a negotiation? Get to a win-win situation.

The main objective of a win-win negotiation is to be able to help the other party get what they want. Here, I am not advocating that you should sacrifice to help them get what they want. Find a solution that is best for both parties. Make them leave the negotiating table feeling that they have won.

The term “win-win” has been abused many times over. You can even negotiate on what a “win-win” solution is. Ideally, you want the other party to feel that it’s a win-win solution as well. It has to be mutual. If you are alone in believing that it’s an ideal win-win situation, you can’t be further from the truth.

So, how can we arrive at a true win-win situation?

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“I don’t even call it violence when it’s in self defense; I call it intelligence.”
- Malcolm X

Experienced negotiators know hundreds of tactics and strategies. However, when under pressure they will instinctly do whatever that works. In a real world negotiation situation, unethical tactics are very common. These tactics come in all direction and you won’t have time to think.

The skilled negotiator is able to deal with unethical tactics quickly with high level of control. With dedication and consistency, we can slowly learn how to deal with unethical tactics.

Here are 5 ways to deal with unethical tactics:

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